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- May 05 2017
Reasons Your Wife Is not Interested In Having Sex with You
When your wife isn't interested in getting busy, it's all too easy to assume she's not interested in you anymore, either. But don't jump to conclusions or give up on your sex life just yet.
You might stop initiating sex out of fear of rejection but if you want to get the sparks flying again, it might be up to you to try.
Below, experts have shared some of the emotional and physical reasons your wife may be distant -- and what you can do to increase intimacy again.
1. She's dissatisfied with the relationship.
For many women, sexual desire is directly linked to how they're feeling about the relationship. If your wife is annoyed with you or otherwise dissatisfied with the marriage, having sex may be the furthest thing from her mind.
You need to ask your partner to find out what she's thinking. She might point out something as insignificant as one of your annoying household or grooming habits -- or she might share a larger issue, like a problem with mutual respect or communication.
2. Sex may be painful for her.
With age comes wisdom... but also considerably more hiccups in the bedroom. If sex is painful or uncomfortable for your wife, it makes sense that intimacy has gotten the short shrift.
Both women and men experience physical and hormonal fluctuations. For women, such fluctuations might impact sexual drive along with things like physical readiness for sex, changes in vaginal wetness and simply feeling sexy.
If that's the case, one of the best things you can do is remind your spouse you're still attracted to her, find out when she feels most relaxed and explore new options like lubricant.
Remember to take things slow: "Women have a sexual arousal period that is longer than men so when sex goes too fast from one thing to the next it can be hard to get turned on with the same speed."
3. You're letting days go by without touching.
Sex is about so much more than just, well, sex. It's the slow buildup, the kiss you exchange at the beginning of the day. It is prioritizing touch to show your spouse the attraction is as strong as ever.
Focus on physical touch and affection every day and don’t jump into sex too fast. Sit next to her on the couch. Hold her hand. Rub her neck. Don’t make her think that you only want to touch her to have sex.
4. She's utterly exhausted.
“Not tonight, honey, I'm too tired" sometimes really does just mean "not tonight, honey, I'm way too tired." After a busy day of work, school drop-offs and household errands, it's very likely that your spouse is too exhausted to even think about having sex.
Exhaustion is real; women need a chance to feel 'full' energetically and nourished. If your partner has no time for herself or room to rest, relax and recharge her batteries, it can be difficult to give sexually.
To remedy this, give each other some alone time and experiment with how intimacy feels after she's had some time just for her.
5. She's grown a little bored with you.
Years ago, sex researchers suggested that all that's necessary to maintain a satisfying sex life as we get older is "reasonably good health and an interested and interesting partner."
Ask yourself: When your spouse looks at you today, does she still see the interesting, compelling guy she fell in love with -- or have you lost some of your luster?
Even if you're far younger, it's possible that you have lost some of your former edge.
To get back some of what made you alluring in the first place, explore your personal interests and reconnect with the person you are outside of your marriage.
6. Sex has become routine.
Over time, your sex life may have gone from hot to humdrum. If you or your wife feels that sex has become too predictable -- same time, same place, same positions -- it may be time to mix things up.
Change the scene, make the bedroom sexy and romantic by adding candles and soft music -- really set the stage for romance. Use your imagination to role play with each other. Most of all have fun; it's OK to giggle and tease each other. Allowing yourself to let go and enjoy the moment and the person you're sharing it with can be intimate and sexy.
7. She's not feeling emotionally connected.
Instead of dwelling on your lackluster sex life, focus a little more on the emotional connection you share with your wife.
"Sometimes, feeling emotionally connected helps women to feel turned on before they have sex. And guess what? This is true for men, too. Try sharing with each other three things you appreciate about your relationship. Repeat it back so you are sure you got it before moving on to the next one.
Then, expanding the conversation by quizzing each other about the three things you enjoy about having sex.
"By the time you are through with this simple exercise, you'll feel emotionally connected and you might think about what brought you together in the first place. You might even feel turned on enough to start something sexy.
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